4. Solid basis: relationship of trust
It’s important to ask ourselves how we create solid foundation in our relationships. It’s necessary to act with assertive- ness in our communication, to create bonds of trust, to have transparency.
Making concrete what needs to be explicit, we give the opportunity so the other can recognize oneself in the situa- tion and choose to change.
It’s very difficult when we are resentful and the other has no knowledge about our needs. Being able to express our feelings from ourselves, not from what was occasioned by the other, helps us create an emphatic connection.
When we retain precious information about what we feel, relationships survive on an unstable, unsafe and unreliable basis. We can create bridges and not barriers.