• Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

  • Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

  • Jo Pavezi sm xs en
    Jo Pavezi sm xs en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café sm xs en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café sm xs en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

11. Weighting: justice being done

It is time to think about the polarities acting within us. It is time to weigh and balance to make decisions regarding conflicts we are living.

Many conflicts arise from our unfulfilled expectations, however, it’s good to assess and be fair with ourselves and with the other:

  • What you expected from the other was possible to be achieved?
  • n Did the person know about it and guarantee it could be delivered?
  • n What contract was made and then raised your expectation?
  • n During the relationship did you sign what you were missing?
  • n What decisions did you make to ease the pain when you realized you wouldn’t be taken care of?
  • n Can you understand the other’s difficulty to meet your expectations?
  • n Are you idealizing the other to the point of not accepting that the person can fail?
  • n What you expected from the other could be supplied by yourself?

11. Weighting: justice being done

It is time to think about the polarities acting within us. It is time to weigh and balance to make decisions regarding conflicts we are living.

Many conflicts arise from our unfulfilled expectations, however, it’s good to assess and be fair with ourselves and with the other:

  • What you expected from the other was possible to be achieved?
  • n Did the person know about it and guarantee it could be delivered?
  • n What contract was made and then raised your expectation?
  • n During the relationship did you sign what you were missing?
  • n What decisions did you make to ease the pain when you realized you wouldn’t be taken care of?
  • n Can you understand the other’s difficulty to meet your expectations?
  • n Are you idealizing the other to the point of not accepting that the person can fail?
  • n What you expected from the other could be supplied by yourself?

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.