• Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

  • Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi md lg en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café md lg en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

  • Jo Pavezi sm xs en
    Jo Pavezi sm xs en
    Jo Pavezi

    Psychologist, Executive Coach, Psychotherapist

  • Convide seu inimigo para um café sm xs en
    Convide seu inimigo para um café sm xs en
    Invite your enemy for some coffee

    Dealing with attachments that lead to dysfunctional conflicts

19. Possibilities: feelings help

A great sensation of well-being comes over us when we learn how to deal with our feelings and how to express them in delicate moments of relationships.

It is a sign that we lost fear of intimacy and vulnerability, and we take up our courage of exposure to a level that exceeds the rational and accusatory approach.

We move forward expressing how impacted we were by the events of that relationship, we make clear for the other person our difficulty in dealing with them, we reveal our limits to understand what is going on, we can ask for help, show our needs, we leave the “judge of the situation” position and just show our weakness.

This is very different from being stuck to justifications, explanations and thesis defenses.

We go towards a real connection with the other, a mutual search of solution for what is presented. It needs to be celebrated, because we move forward in our relational maturity.

19. Possibilities: feelings help

A great sensation of well-being comes over us when we learn how to deal with our feelings and how to express them in delicate moments of relationships.

It is a sign that we lost fear of intimacy and vulnerability, and we take up our courage of exposure to a level that exceeds the rational and accusatory approach.

We move forward expressing how impacted we were by the events of that relationship, we make clear for the other person our difficulty in dealing with them, we reveal our limits to understand what is going on, we can ask for help, show our needs, we leave the “judge of the situation” position and just show our weakness.

This is very different from being stuck to justifications, explanations and thesis defenses.

We go towards a real connection with the other, a mutual search of solution for what is presented. It needs to be celebrated, because we move forward in our relational maturity.

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.

In the book ‘Invite your enemy for some coffee, Jo Pavezi invites you to think about relational conflicts and seek ways to detach ideas and concepts that lead to them.

Are you living a relational conflict with your staff, or in your personal life, and want a way to reflect on it? Choose a card and find a tip that can help you.

Learn more about Jo Pavezi's work in interviews, videos and reports of her experiences in Brazil and in the world helping people to confront their conflicts.